open relationship…

An open relationship is one in which both people agree to get involved in a physical (or emotional) relationship with other people without the act being considered to be infidelity. This is the textbook definition of an open relationship. Of course, it depends on the couple involved. While an open relationship is not the choice of many, some people have given it a shot. Below are the top reasons they give for being in an open relationship.

1. It promises variety. The biggest benefit is that there will be variety in your life. While you will always have someone to go back home to, you will have the option of going to someone else if you so wish. This variety is good as it prevents boredom and adds a fair amount of spice to life.

2. It helps bring couples closer. Believe it or not, an open relationship just might help bring you closer. The fact that you will be involved with other people will only help you realise the value of your partner and what she brings to the relationship.

3. It’s a “fantasy.” Kinky excites everyone! An open relationship helps you live out your kinkiest fantasies. Not many people get to live their romantic fantasies so if you get a chance to live yours, then you shouldn’t shy away from it.

4. It serves up options. An open relationship will work wonders if you are too young, or either partner is going to spend a long time away because of work/study. This way you have each other to fall back on, as well the liberty to move on in case you meet someone interesting. This setting helps avoid awkwardness and surely prevents cheating. A win-win arrangement for both parties involved.

Bottom line: An open relationship is not something everyone can handle. The emotions, demands, and workings of such a relationship are different from what is considered ‘normal’. Make sure that you and your partner are on the same page and that both of you equally wish to be in an open relationship.


Could You Keep Your Spouse From Cheating?

By Pierra Calasanz-Labrador for Yahoo! Southeast Asia

When the movie No Other Woman came out, it struck a chord among millions of married Pinays—what would we do if an Anne Curtis clone walked into our husband’s life?

Oh, the very thought strikes panic in our hearts and opens up a Pandora’s Box of questions: Would we pack our bags and leave at the first sign of his indiscretion? Would we play the role of the long-suffering wife and look the other way? Or, would we fight fire with fire, with Cristine Reyes verve in all her negligee glory and mama Carmi Martin’s one-liner winners ringing in our ears? (“Panahon na para i-pack up yang si Lucy Torres mo. Ilabas mo na diyan si Gretchen Barretto!”)

Hang on—why even wait for things even get to that point? The best defense is a good offense, and the key is to know what makes our hubbies happy, so he won’t even consider straying. Easier said than done, right? So here are some tips from domestic goddesses (and regular men) on how to keep your man in line:

Tip#1: Be attentive and affectionate. After the passion fades, sometimes our interaction with hubby is reduced to a perfunctory good night kiss. Don’t stop showing your love and affection! Shares Anna*, “I try to keep the romance alive. We go out on dinner and movie dates without the kids. We also still talk about our dreams and what we’re going to do in our old age. It helps that we laugh a lot together!” You don’t need to sweep each other off your feet—random cuddling, holding hands while watching a TV movie, sweet daily rituals, and the occasional ‘stolen moment,’ will help keep your love fresh.

Tip#2: Look your best. Yes, he vowed to love you through thick and thin, waistline notwithstanding—but that doesn’t mean you should let yourself go. “Once a girl is ‘off the market,’ she kind of relaxes her effort to be attractive. But don’t turn into a total slob!” warns Kathy*. Caring for your health and body, keeping in shape, dolling yourself up nicely can be the greatest compliment you can pay him—and yourself. Bonus to looking your best: as you “wow him everyday,” you’re also loving what you see in the mirror. And when you feel good about yourself, there’s a tendency to make your partner feel good, too.

Tip #3: Exude confidence. Is your hubby such a Greek god or chick magnet that you’re constantly on praning mode? Searching his pockets/wallet/going through his texts, bristling at the mention of any female colleagues, or stalking him without any provocation will only succeed in annoying him, and turning you into a suspicious, desperate, sorry mess. It can get really tiresome for a guy to deal with jealous rages or constantly reassure you of his love over and over again. Do listen to your woman’s intuition—but before then, don’t jump the gun. Treating him like you’re sure he’s going to cheat may actually tempt him to call your bluff!

Okay, so maybe you say you trust your guy, but you don’t trust the women around him. Have a little faith in yourself. Yes, there will always be someone prettier, hotter or younger than you, but no one can ever be the YOU he fell in love with. Clinging desperately on to your man may give him illusions that he’s too good for you—he should feel that he’s lucky to have you, and not the other way around.

Tip #4: Don’t nag, don’t smother. Unless you want your guy to revert back to his rebellious teenage self, act like his hot, loving wife—not his mom or prison guard. “When a guy feels ‘sakal' or stifled in a relationship, his instinct is to escape,” says Tony. “And if there just happens to be someone who comes along who is sexy, fun and has no baggage or drama… patay.” So go ahead, let him have his fill of computer games or basketball time with the guys—and he’ll be happy to come home to his cool wife.

Tip #5: Spice things up. Says Migs*, “Guys love the thrill of the chase.” It only takes a little flirtation to spur their imagination. “A husband thinks that he already has you, so he might be curious to know how it would be with someone they technically can’t have. It’s the ‘what if’ factor,” continues Migs.

So how do you keep him from acting on his animal instincts? Bring out the domestic goddess in you. Spice things up with spontaneous gestures, go on “second honeymoon” trips, or (trump card) try new tricks in the bedroom. Keep things from getting stale, so that he’s constantly amazed by you. Maintain the mystery, no matter how comfortable you are with each other.

Tip # 6: Show an interest in his activities. While it’s important to nurture individual interests for your personal growth, find some shared activities as well so you can grow together. You don’t have to be joined at the hip, but it really helps when you’re supportive of his passions. Do you respond with a bored “uhm-hmmm” every time he tries to engage you in conversation about his activities? Would you rather he bond with someone else? When he spends a lot of time somewhere else (especially if it requires overnight stays and out-of-town events), there’s always the temptation of falling for a colleague or teammate who “gets him.” So don’t belittle his hobbies.

Tip #7: Keep it special. It’s easy to take things for granted after years and years of marriage, kids, and morning breath. Someone’s bound to feel overworked and under-appreciated, and the danger comes when an outside force starts showing some of that attention that’s sorely lacking at home.

Complacency is the devil—so make things special every day. It can be as simple as saying thank you after every meal/errand/chore, thoughtfully surprising each other with a favorite snack, or treating him to a relaxing massage after a long day. Says Andrea, “I treat him with respect; I try not to brat out and pick fights. I tell him I appreciate that he takes care of us. And on his end, I suppose he realizes that he has a partner for life, that I’m there for him no matter what. It’s not a fleeting romance—it’s a real relationship.”

*Not their real names



For me, major TURN-ON to a guy when he knows how to dance. When he knows how to carry himself in the middle of the crowd and on the dancefloor. I find it so attractive and hot. I love dancing and sometimes, I imagine .. If God will give me the right person, I’ll be happy. Both of us are into dancing. :)

I know most guys out there don’t like dancing because most of them can’t really dance too well. I understand that. But you’re not doing it for by yourself. You’re doing it for your girl. Here’s why:

1. Dancing will loosen her up. If it’s your first couple of dates with a woman, you can’t do better than get her on the dance floor. Unlike chit-chatting, which can get awkward or boring, dancing is always fun and loose. It will relax her.

2. Dancing is sex with clothes on. Watch a woman dance. See her hips moving around? See her grinding and invisible man?

3. When a slow song comes on, you can get close. But slow dancing will get you there faster. You’re bodies are close. You can feel her heart and she can feel yours. Take advantage!

4. Practice makes perfect. Maybe you can’t dance now. But with practice you’ll get better. So get on the dancefloor and get better. Plus, if you get her laughing with your moves, it’ll just make her like you all the more.

Winners take their ladies dancing. ♥

… to the dance master of my life, my angel :’(( …

Move on 101: Tips on Moving on.

Tip #1. Huwag magpadala sa awa.
- - huwag kang maawa sa kanya o sa sarili mo. Kasi the more na naaawa ka sa kanya, the more na babalik ang pagmamahal mo.

Tip #2. Never ask yourself “paano kung..”
- - never doubt. Panindigan mo na. Sa una masakit talaga, pero lilipas din yan. Maraming nasasaktan sa salitang “paano kung..” 
ex. Paano kung mahal niya talaga ako? Paano kung hindi talaga siya manloloko?

Tip #3. Don’t read his/her text messages.
- - masasaktan ka lang. maaawa ka lang. manghihinayang ka lang. huwag ka nang magreply. or better magpalit ka ng sim card.Try niyo Red Mobile. Konti lang may ganun. (pero nakaTM ako)

Tip #4. Burahin siya sa FB o Friendster (kung may ganun pa)
- - kahit anong komunikasyon. Wag kang mag-alala kung sabihan kang bitter, bakit? kapag ba sinabihan kang bitter magiging kayo uli? ikayayaman mo ba? ok lang yun! burahin mo na siya. huwag na huwag papasok sa utak mo ang salitang “Kasi naman” at “Sayang, ano ba yan!”

Tip #5. Burahin lahat ng picture niya sa Facebook, sa cellphone, psp, ipod. 
- - sunugin ang picture niya na nasa wallet mo. punitin. itapon at apak-apakan. pati mga sinave mong text niya (gawain ko) burahin mo na! Bawal manghinayang ok! Kung gusto makamove on, gawin ito ng taos sa puso, sa isip, sa salita at sa gawa.

Tip #6. Patayin ang ka-landi-uling sa katawan.
- - huwag padala sa sweet words. kapag pinatulan mo, tignan mo, wasak ka! Patayin ang apoy!

Tip #7. Huwag maniwala sa puso. Maniwala lamang sa isip.
- - sa ganitong sitwasyon, hayaan mo munang manaig ang ISIP kaysa sa PUSO. Dahil ang utak, tinuturuan kang maging matapang ngunit ang puso tinuturuan kang sumuko, maawa at magmahal. “Ang Isip at Ang Puso” Bow.

Tip #8. Makinig sa mga sinasabi ng iba pero mas makinig ka muna sa sinasabi ng puso’t isip mo.
- - huwag ka padadala agad sa mga sinasabi ng iba. Sa mga sinasabi nila tungkol sa inyo. Sarili mo lang ang makakatulong sayo upang tuluyan mo siyang makalimutan

Tip #9. Aliwin ang sarili.
- - ituon ang sarili sa ibang bagay para makalimot. Magbasa ng Narnia or Twilight Saga na libro, taasan ang level ni Sam sa Cityville, panoorin ang Wishlist at gawan ito ng book report, idrowing si Agua o kaya si Nita Negrita, bumili sa CDRking ng kahit ano (for sure, mahaba habang hintayan ang mangyayari) Pumunta sa Mang Inasal at umorder ng PM2. Basta aliwin mo ang sarili mo.

Tip #10. Matuto. Magpahinga. Mag-isip. Magmahal muli.
- - moving on isn’t about never looking back, it’s about taking a glance at the past and seeing how much you’ve grown since then.


Where there are no secrets in between, no doubts, and keeping arguments on the down low. Where I can wake up knowing you’re on my mind and I’m on your mind. A relationship where I can be away from them to let them do what they want without having to worry if she’s going to cheat. I want a relationship where we can have dinner together, bring home to each other’s parents and celebrate holidays together.

Legal Relationships

When a couple can finally do everything with the consent of their parents, it’s one of the happiest things that they will ever experience. It’s really hard to make a relationship legal on both sides. It’s hard to impress the parents of your partners so when you got the chance, grab it. It’s not always that a parent will approve their child’s relationship. When you have a legal on both sides relationship, you’re lucky. Don’t waste it. :)

i love you forever to infinity shishin koh… sana sooon maging ok na tayo… i miss you sooo bad!!!

i love you forever to infinity shishin koh… sana sooon maging ok na tayo… i miss you sooo bad!!!


Boy: I shouldn’t have told her that. I offended her, I know. Should I say sorry now or should I give her time first? I don’t know what to do. Due to my lonelines, I have been drawing her oceanic eyes in my notebook over and over again and I watched my previous drawings of her beautiful face. I’m too restless to sleep, too guilty of offending her feelings. I hope she’s not crying. I always hate it when she’s crying. I’m supposed to cheer her up, to make her feel better. But what did I do? Ugh, stupid me. Should I call her? Would I be able to sleep?

I wish she’s here in my arms.

Girl: He had hurt me and I had hurt him with some of my words too. Why are there no tears in my eyes? But I could feel my heart bleeding. It’s undeniable. Sigh, I just hate it when we argue at the end of the day. It’s something that I wished we never do. Should I call him again? Is he asleep? I wonder if he’s thinking about me, because I am and I may not be able to sleep again.

I wish he’s here beside me.


we are perfect, bheibee #17

we are perfect, bheibee #17

Me: Maybe things will get better.
Depression: I'll make you sad.
Paranoia: I'll make you feel like none of your friends like you.
Anxiety: I'll give you a panic attack.
Trust: I'll disappear for a while.
Happiness: Come on bitch, I was just an illusion.
Scale: How can things be better when you're still fat?
Mirror: You're still ugly.
Mind: Come on. It won't get better. You know better than that.